“Through the mirror of my mind,
Time after time,
I see reflections of you and me.
The way life used to be…”
The soulful tones of Diana Ross’s voice as she sings the poignant lyrics of her song, ‘Reflections’, are swimming through my head and I’m in a reflective and thoughtful mood as I think about Mother’s Day.
With Easter now over for another year, we start to look forward to our next special occasion with our family, the celebration of the beautiful mothers in our lives.
Many of us mothers will be treated by our family, possibly with breakfast in bed, a card, our favourite flowers and either a cooked meal at home or taken out for the day to our favourite restaurant. Many of us will include our own mothers in our special day, if they are living close by, taking the time to carefully choose out a meaningful card or find the perfect gift to commemorate the day, and through material means, try and express how much they mean to us.
As I do every year, I began preparing my upcoming blog on style suggestions for Mother’s day outfits, and about what the day means for most of us mothers in a traditional sense, however I couldn’t help but become overwhelmed with thoughts about my own mother.
I’m in a reflective mood, and you’re probably wondering why, so I’d like to share my thoughts with you…
I’m blessed to have both my parents still around. They live in a beautiful home in sunny Queensland and I take every opportunity I can to visit and spend some time in person with them. Being a busy mum myself, as well as running a full-on business, I don’t always get to see them half as much as I would want to.
In particular, I’m finding it harder with my Mum, I call her every day to find out how she is and tell her how much I love her. She tells me about her day and what she has been doing and I often get told the same stories a few times. You see, she forgets that she has told me already…my Mum has Alzheimer’s disease.
Watching my Mum’s deterioration is heartbreaking and it makes me all the more aware of time, and the importance of spending more time with loved ones. The importance of telling her how much I value all the things she did for me when I was growing up. The importance of telling her how much I love her and appreciate her for all she is.
With my Mum’s Alzheimer now rapidly advancing and taking her from me, my thoughts will be centred around past Mothers Days spent spoiling her with family time, presents and lots of love. I’ll make sure to call her three or four times throughout the day simply to remind her that it’s Mothers Day and that I love her.
My own day will also be filled with reflection on the love I have for my own four sons. As you might remember, three work in hospitality and will be busy on this retail day. I know though, that they will be on the phone to tell me, like I will tell my Mum, how much they love me. We plan to enjoy a family meal together a little later in the day. I have one son who runs his own business and I really look forward to spending some quality time with him!!
We all hear ourselves say, ‘time goes by so quickly’ or ‘where has the time gone’, and it’s Life – time ticks on regardless of whether we notice it or not. So this Mother’s Day, maybe give your Mum an extra big squeezy hug, or ring her a few times to tell her how much you love her, or enjoy every minute of being adored by your children, and enjoy your special day.
What do you normally do on Mothers day? Do you get spoiled or are you someone who just needs the space? Is your Mum still with you, how will you spoil her?